My Grandmother always said;- 'A true friend is someone you can laugh with, cry with, pour your heart out with and if you don't see them for a time, you can always pick up where you left of and of course have the odd fight with!'
I used to think the last part of her statement was a little unsettling, Fight with....?
Over the years I have met many different people, not all I would call a true friend, yes I have enjoyed their company, had a laugh, enjoyed getting to know at least a bit about them, but it sort of ended there.
I could never really be myself with them. I don't believe the problem was entirely theirs, but that feeling of trust , that bond just wasn't completely there.
Friendships can be the most wonderful thing we can experience in life. Recently I have had the experience of loosing friends, through Cancer etc. People who I had the privilege of working with. This has reopened my eyes to the true values of life the memories we share are so valuable.
Over the past five years my own life has had it traumas, financial problems, work problems, home and family problems. Problems, problems, problems, never ending problems which left little time in my life to keep connected to my friendships. I just couldn't put a brave face on it, knowing they would see straight through me. I wasn't up for letting it all out.
I always knew in my heart my true friends were always there, just a phone call away but I kept silent and alone.
You see I did not want to burden them with my worries because I knew they had their own to deal with, I know now this was very wrong of me.
True friendships go through the good times as well as the bad, I had lost out on that wonderful support and love when I needed it the most. I did not allow that friendship to deepen, to mature, to grow, because I couldn't bear to deal with my own pain openly.
Life, work, problems will always be there for each one of us, that is indeed life, but there is also joy, laughter, support and a shoulder to cry on when needed.
Depression is caused when we begin to believe we are totally on our own, that no one cares enough to help us get through. Theses are the lies of the enemy and must be rebuked. We are precious in the eyes of God and in the heart of a friend who loves us. Friendships are the greatest blessing to pull us back to reality. A true friend will challenge you, love you, support you, tell you when your wrong and care for you, all in one package, it works both ways.
My advice to you today is call your friends, reconnect to someone you haven't seen in a while, don't stay away, they need you as much as you need them.
And as my Grandmother also used to say, if you can count your true friends on one hand you'll be a lucky man. Well Thank God I have to use both hands to count the wonderful friendships that I have. Thank God for the gift of friendships, for the laughter, the tears, and the odd wee fight. x